I am in a good place right now. I have no man in my life and no sign of one to come. I am not at the weight I want to be nor do I look like I feel I should. I have lots of things unaccomplished but I am at a good place. How is that possible? Sometimes I catch myself thinking, I am happy- really happy. My life is good. My kids are healthy. I have a job I like. I have interesting people in my life. I have goals, dreams and desires. How did I get here? When I look back on last year, I was thinner, with a job I hated, and a very small circle of friends (2). My kids were making me crazy and I was recovering from the end of a relationship with a man I really liked. How did I get here? What did I do differently? Was it all the result of environmental changes or did I do something different?
I am a reflective person and I would like to know how these positive changes happened so I can recreate them when needed.
So here goes with my speculations:
1) Antidepressants
2) A low stress job
3) A fulfilling side job
4) Happy hour with girlfriends
5) Loving kids
6) An ex husband- who is a great dad
7) Self supporting
8) Lots of interests
Also, I am easy going. I practice talking myself through things and often say, "How will getting upset help?" It usually doesn't and so I don't. I have had a few occasions to be justifiably upset and I chose not to be. Examples: Car was vandalized, ex husband stopped the child support, side swiped my own car, man I was seeing was a user and I can't fit into my favorite jeans.
I have chosen in each situation to stop, reflect on the outcome of my reaction, and choose to say, "it will be ok...everything works out." That is powerful! I am powerful! I can effect a change in my life for the better regardless of my circumstances. If I want to be happy, I can be!
I choose happiness!
